I would like some assistance please?

Ok, so, there is this girl i really really REALLY like! but she goes to college 5 states away! :( And i tried bringing up the whole "what are we?" question, but i didnt get a clear answer (i dont think she tried to make it cloudy) and i didnt want to press it. Now she has asked me to go to her family's for thanksgiving. I already said yes, but should i like bring a floral arrangement for her mom or something? and how can a i casualy bring up the "what are we?" question without seeming like a creepy naggy guy? Im so confused! please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I would like some assistance please?
I think the floral arrangement is a must for her mom.


There must be something for the girl as well but not as good as for her mom.


Don't mention "what are we" topic.


She invited you to her home and it means something.


Time will show.
Reply:Five states? Hope you live in New England and not out West!! What are you...you are five states away is what you are...enough said...
Reply:I think it would be nice to bring a flower arrangement for her mother, or a bottle of wine (depending on how old you are and if they are wine drinkers or not). Nothing too fancy or too costly, however.





If you want my opinion, I think you should just enjoy the time together. The more good times she has being with you (no pressure, etc.) the more things will go in your favor, if you know what I mean. Wait until a time when it is just the two of you to bring up the question again. If it isn't an answer that you are going to like, how awkward, for one, if you bring up during the middle of a Thanksgiving get-together. I think you will know when the time is right to bring up the question again. I think it is a good sign that she invited you to dinner though! Good luck!
Reply:Look this is what you do...Bring her mom the flowers, and when you go and talk to her this is what you say, tell her that you really like her and you would like to know where you stand in her life, to know if she looks at you as a friend or more...
Reply:Just do it..in what ever way you know how. You will eat yourself up forever if you hold it in. I know it is hard and you feel out of place. This is what life is about. Maybe you can ask her hat she thinks of you and then you can tell her what you think of her. Good luck and be blessed.
Reply:well just bring some desserts over like apple pie or something.the flower thing sounds nice too.but i'm pretty sure she won't mind you asking again.so just have the guts to ask her!you can't waste your life asking "why?" live your life!
Reply:Flowers are a nice idea, but don't go overboard.


Tell her you may seem dense, but you're not sure enough of yourself to know what she meant when she wrote back.


Gotta tell you, getting invited to Thanksgiving dinner is a step in the right direction. Be on your best behavior, they'll all have something to say to her about you.


Good luck.